How to Avoid Answering a Question

Hi Polite One:

I work for a gigantic company many hate. When people hear the name, the response is always negative and on occasion, violent. I joined a country club recently and at a new member event I was asked the dreaded question “what do you do?” I said, “well, you know this and that”.

The new members thought I was a gangster and made a hasty retreat. What is the politest way not to answer this question? I’ve tried to say I work in an office but with follow-up questions, they figure it out, and then it gets unpleasant. Any ideas?

Thanks,

Gregg

Hello Gregg,

How awkward for you! There is no right or wrong way to answer this question, but truth can be avoided...for some time anyway.

Your answer was good. I'm sorry it caused a bit of anxiety for some.

How About

"As little as possible."

"Whatever my wife tells me to do."

"Work is so dreary, let's focus on what we do in our private time."

"I believe our jobs don’t define any of us. It is how we apply our off-work hours."

Follow up with asking what the other person does in his/her off-work hours.

Or a Version of the Truth

"I have a great job, but I'd rather have all of you know me for me, not my job or the company that employs me.” (smile)

I'm sorry this is a problem for you.

Most sincerely,

The Polite One

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