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Dear Polite One, We have been invited to a Fund Raiser Charity Event at the Claremont in Berkeley, CA.  They list “Country Club Casual” on the invitation.  Can you help what we should wear?  I’m going to wear a nice dress and heels, but I’m concerned with my husband.  What should he wear? Thank you Attire Conscious Dear Attire Conscious, Country Club Casual is golf country club attire, like nice slacks, shirts with collars, and shoes with laces.  However, as a fundraiser attire should be more formal.  I would suggest business - appropriate might be best: slacks, nice shirt, and sports jacket.   Sincerely, The Polite One More From The Polite One What to wear to the movie premiere in New York City? Formal Look for a Charity Function in Seattle Change of attire between red carpet premiere and gala?

Hi Polite One: I work for a gigantic company many hate. When people hear the name, the response is always negative and on occasion, violent. I joined a country club recently and at a new member event I was asked the dreaded question “what do you do?” I said, “well, you know this and that”. The new members thought I was a gangster and made a hasty retreat. What is the politest way not to answer this question? I’ve tried to say I work in an office but with follow-up questions, they figure it out, and then it gets unpleasant.  Any ideas? Thanks, Gregg Hello Gregg, How awkward for you!  There is no right or wrong way to answer this question, but truth can be avoided...for some time anyway.  Your answer was good.  I'm sorry it caused a bit of anxiety for some.  How About "As little as possible." "Whatever my wife tells me to do."  "Work is so dreary, let's focus on what we do in our private time." "I believe our jobs do...