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How to Politely Inform Others That They’ve Mispronounced My Name?

Dear Polite One, 

My name is difficult for many to pronounce, which makes it awkward when others are always mispronouncing it.  What is the politest way to tell someone that they are mispronouncing your name?

What's in a Name?

Dear What's in a Name?

The politest way to inform someone that he/she is mispronouncing your name is to do so right away. Perhaps, "I'm sorry, but my name is a bit difficult to pronounce; it is..."  You could use this method in all situations.  

Best,

The Polite One

How to tell him to put the toilet seat down?

Dear Polite One, 

I keep telling my husband that it is polite for a man to put the toilet seat down, but he says that I should put it up for him.  I’ve discussed this with other women and men, and they all agree that it is impolite and inconsiderate to leave the seat up.  How can I make him understand that this is not polite?

Thank you! 

Tired of falling in the toilet in the middle of the night!

Dear Tired of falling in the toilet in the middle of the night,

Ah, the old toilet seat issue.  Those you spoke to are correct that treating people kindly and civilly is good manners. Leaving a toilet seat up so that you or anyone else could fall into the toilet is not kind or civil. 

Let us just consider aesthetics.  The toilet looks better with both the seat and cover down. So, logically both genders should put the cover down, which would include the seat.

And how about the fact that even he must sit at times.  Ah-ha!  Good argument.  Besides that, it’s just illogical and ill-mannered to expect you to put the seat up for him. 

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

Using Public Handicap Toilets When Not Disabled?

Dear Polite One, 

Is it all right to use the disabled toilet when there's no one in the restroom using a wheelchair? 

Thank you!

Visitor 

Dear Visitor, 

It's etiquette-ly correct to do so if no one else in need. There are so many with invisible disabilities and aliments who may need to use the toilet right away—no bladder control.  So, who are we to judge who has a disability or not?  However, the stalls are designed specifically to accommodate wheelchairs.    

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

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