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  Dear Polite One, My husband and I are attending a Bat Mitzvah at a synagogue hall, in a suburb of Detroit.  Black tie invited is expected.   So is a long, black, crepe skirt with a silver gray, crushed crepe top and black sandals for me and a black suit with suitable shirt, tie, and accessories for my husband appropriate? Bat Mitzvah Attire Dear Bat Mitzvah Attire, Perfect. You might see some tuxedos though.  But a suit is fine as well.   Sincerely, The Polite One More From The Polite One Change of attire between red carpet premiere and gala? What is country club casual for a fund-raising charity event? Visitor’s Advice About Wearing Nylons in DC

Dear Polite One, I just found an invitation to my daughter's Bat Mitzvah that didn't make it to the mailbox.  The event is two weeks from now.  This is a close friend and I hoped she could attend, but what do I say to her? If appears as if she is a second thought.  This is such a blunder! Embarrassed Mom   Dear Embarrassed Mom, No worries.  Thankfully, you found the invitation before the event.  Call or visit her ASAP and explain what happened.  Since she is a friend, she should understand.     Best wishes for your daughter's Bat Mitzvah.   Sincerely, The Polite One More by The Polite One How to write a formal reply? Listing “No Children” and “Monetary Gifts” on the Invitation? She is hosting her party and asking for gifts!