Got Etiquette Advice?

Hi Polite One: I work for a gigantic company many hate. When people hear the name, the response is always negative and on occasion, violent. I joined a country club recently and at a new member event I was asked the dreaded question “what do you do?” I said, “well, you know this and that”. The new members thought I was a gangster and made a hasty retreat. What is the politest way not to answer this question? I’ve tried to say I work in an office but with follow-up questions, they figure it out, and then it gets unpleasant.  Any ideas? Thanks, Gregg Hello Gregg, How awkward for you!  There is no right or wrong way to answer this question, but truth can be avoided...for some time anyway.  Your answer was good.  I'm sorry it caused a bit of anxiety for some.  How About "As little as possible." "Whatever my wife tells me to do."  "Work is so dreary, let's focus on what we do in our private time." "I believe our jobs do...

  How to deal with my brother's poor behavior? Family!   At times, we ask ourselves what we can do but scream or cry or...sigh?   Most often, we can be honest and open with family members when there is a difference of opinion.   But what if there is obvious indifference to our children?   Yikes!   Here’s a heartbreaking example of just that. Good afternoon, Polite One,  I feel very hurt because of my brother's lack of fairness.  We give gifts to his children and he will give gifts to all the other family members' children, but not mine.  We have never had issues between us before.  So, I don't know how to deal with this.  My children notice, which is the worst part.  What is your advice on how to deal with poor behavior??  Giftless in Seattle  Dear Giftless in Seattle,  Even though all gift-giving is optional, on the surface this appears hurtful and deliberate.  I would suggest asking him if ...