Guests Contribute to College Fund
Dear Polite One,
My
son turns five next month and I want to inform all guests to contribute to his college
fund. He has enough toys and I must consider
his future. How do I list this on the
invitation? Will an evite work?
Wants
Donations
Dear
Wants Donations,
I’m
sorry but this would be most impolite.
Hosts never request cash or any type of monetary contribution for a
child’s birthday. If your child is lucky
enough to have all his needs met, you could inform guests not to give gifts. This would be best.
Good
luck!
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Host Wants Guests to Host
Dear
Polite One,
What
should I do? My daughter’s best friend
is having a birthday party. Her mother
has requested all parents attend to help monitor the children while they play at
a local miniature golf course. Plus, we
are all expected to pay our cost and that of our child.
Help!
Dear
Help!
Yikes! This is most impolite. The host should never expect—or demand—guests pay
for the party.
This
is difficult since it involves your daughter’s best friend. So, it appears you have little choice. Either you pay up and grumble or decline the
invitation risking your daughter’s hurt feelings.
If
you decide to pay and grumble, attend and smile. If not, be honest with your child about why
you made this decision.
There
is a third, albeit risky, alternative.
If you are close, or even on speaking terms, with the mother, you could
inform her that you’ve read—heard, know, etc—that it is a major no-no to ask
guests to pay. You could frame it such
that it appears you are trying to save her from embarrassment.
Good
luck!
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Host Wants Guests to Pay
Dear
Polite One,
My
daughter is invited to a friend's birthday party for which we are expected to
pay for the meal and a gift. Shouldn't the host (parent of the birthday
child) pay for the party? What is proper birthday party etiquette?
Thanks
Aghast
in Alabama
Dear
Aghast in Alabama,
I'm
aghast as well. Yikes! Guests should never be expected to open
their wallets. Hosts provide the "entire" party. Additionally,
hosts never request gifts, even for a child's birthday party.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
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