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  As Godmother, how do I deal with ungrateful parents? Dear Polite One,  As Godmother of my niece, I felt obligated and honored to purchase her Christening gown or her first cross but was told that those were already purchased.  So, I decided to give her a savings bond valued at $50.00 and a keep-safe porcelain cross to record the date.    I never received a thank you note but did hear that my sister-in-law feels I am selfish for not giving more. She expected thousands of dollars.  As a single parent, I can’t afford more.  Was I wrong?  I feel so hurt. How do I deal with ungrateful people?   Heartbroken Godmother Dear Heartbroken Godmother,  Unbelievable and unkind behavior! That was very hurtful and she is incorrect.  You were not expected to give more.  A godparent gives life lessons—like a second parent.  Yes, gifts are somewhat expected.  However, even as a Godparent all gift-giving is...

Whether or not you choose a religious affiliation, to be a Godparent is a great honor.  Upon your acceptance, you are now a crucial member of that child’s life.  Gifts are often part of your responsibility, but your steady guidance is much more important.   Dear Polite One,   I'm the Godmother of my new little niece.  I have no idea what the appropriate gift is at the Christening and as each year progresses.  Is there a book about this or a list or something? Visitor Dear Visitor,   Congratulations on your new role in a little person's life.  As a Godmother, you will have a great impact on your niece's values.     There are many different views on exactly what your involvement should be at the Christening. You may be expected to arrive in nice clothing and simply stand where and when you are asked.  Or you may be expected to purchase the child's dress and various other duties. It all depends on the chur...