My Brother is Rude to My Children!

How to deal with my brother's poor behavior?

Family! At times, we ask ourselves what we can do but scream or cry or...sigh? Most often, we can be honest and open with family members when there is a difference of opinion. But what if there is obvious indifference to our children? Yikes! Here’s a heartbreaking example of just that.

Good afternoon, Polite One,

I feel very hurt because of my brother's lack of fairness. We give gifts to his children and he will give gifts to all the other family members' children, but not mine. We have never had issues between us before. So, I don't know how to deal with this. My children notice, which is the worst part. What is your advice on how to deal with poor behavior??

Giftless in Seattle

Dear Giftless in Seattle,

Even though all gift-giving is optional, on the surface this appears hurtful and deliberate. I would suggest asking him if the gift exchange is something he would rather skip. You would decide if you wish to continue at that point. If he is truly giving to other's children and not yours, he may have his reasons. There is no way to know exactly why. As inconsiderate and disappointing this is for your children perhaps you could use this as a teachable moment and be very honest with your children about the fact that some people do not buy gifts. Sometimes they may feel pressured to buy for some, but skip those they feel won't care (as sis you'll still love him--no pressure).

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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