Since I don’t drink, must I provide alcohol at my parties?

Dear Polite One,

My question deals with offering alcoholic beverages at parties. Is it rude for the host who does not drink himself, to not offer drinks to those who do? I would love to know the answer because I am planning a dinner party and am unsure.

Sober

Dear Sober,

It isn’t entirely rude, but it is slightly inconsiderate. As hosts, we should always consider our guest’s preferences. And people who do drink like to do so during a party. It is just a common component found at parties. This isn’t to say that it cannot be done. You could verbally inform your guests that you do not drink and therefore won’t be serving any alcohol. They can then choose to attend or not.

You could serve drinks that seem like alcoholic drinks minus the alcohol. There are many recipes online for ‘virgin’ drinks.

Another option is to host your “gathering” in the early afternoon when most don’t drink alcohol. Perhaps it could be a tea or dessert party.

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