No Gift Hubby! What’s a Wife to do?

Dear Polite One,

My husband and I are high school sweethearts and have been together for 25 years. In the past, he gave me a gift on Valentine’s Day and for our anniversary but never for Christmas or my birthday. Now he doesn’t give me anything, not even a card. How do I respond to that?

Tracy

Dear Tracy,

In my opinion and experience, most men are much more direct than women. Women tend to "infer" their preferences, while men directly state them. It may be best for you to speak directly to your husband about your feelings.

Perhaps he doesn't feel comfortable purchasing gifts. Perhaps his feelings have changed. You won't know unless you discuss this with him. But prepare to hear something you may not want to hear. I hope it is not hurtful.

Having said this, I am not a therapist or a relationship expert, although I have some experience due to my job. I can only offer my opinion. So, take my advice as just another option.

I hope this all turns out well.

Most sincerely,

The Polite One

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