Etiquette is basically
the protocol we use in any given situation.
It is the behavior expected of us.
Still, not everyone is comfortable with their knowledge of what is
considered proper or appropriate. On an
average day, I will receive questions about all aspects of etiquette. Here are
a few questions from some of our readers.
One thing you may
notice in my responses is that the etiquette
I suggest makes sense. It is
logical.
Shirtless
Party?
Hi Polite One,
Is it improper to go shirtless
on a hot summer day at a backyard barbeque
with friends and close family members?
Shirtless
Dear Shirtless,
If this is a pool
party, it would be fine as many would be shirtless and in swimsuits. However, if it is simply a dinner party or
gathering, it is best to remain clothed.
Ask yourself if it would be an appropriate time for the ladies to be
wearing swimsuits or go shirtless. If
the answer is no, then the men should wear shirts also.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
What
Type of Grapes Are Used in Pinot Noir Wine?
Dear Polite One,
I
have been told that true pinot noir grape wine is made from two grape varietals,
neither of which is called pinot noir. What are they?
Wine
Newbie
Dear
Wine Newbie,
Your
informant is misinformed. Pinot Noir wine is made from Pinot Noir
grapes. Winemakers can and often do blend their wines with other grapes
to create a particular balance or flavor. Each decides what grapes are
best for his wines.
Even then, if the wine bottle is labeled “Pinot Noir,” the majority of grapes must
be Pinot Noir or it cannot be labeled as such.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
No Hat Zone
Dear Polite One,
My
question is regarding my husband’s hats.
Yes, he takes his hat off at the table but then he puts it ON THE TABLE. It’s shocking to me, but he doesn’t see my
point of view. He leaves his baseball
caps and running hats on kitchen counters as well.
In
addition to bad manners, I think it’s not hygienic. He argues that he doesn’t know where to put
it. I suggest that it should go in the
coat area.
Or, if there isn’t one, perhaps he could put it on the back of his chair?
Can
you back me up on this one?
Can
the Hats
Dear
Can the Hats,
You
win this argument!
You
are correct this is extremely poor behavior on many levels. The hat
should not be seen in the home, not at the table or in any rooms. It
should be placed in a closet when he enters the house.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
Must I
Pay Her Restaurant Tab?
Dear Polite One,
I
have a question on etiquette when it comes to ordering a round of drinks
and "splitting the bill." I was at a restaurant and didn't order much
food though those around me ate a full dinner. One of the people ordered
a round of shots.
When
the bill came, the person who ordered the round of drinks said, "Let's
just split the bill equally." I
confronted her about her ordering the round of drinks and that she should pay
for them. Her reply: "You drank it, you pay for it." I totally
disagree - what does etiquette say?
No Split Decision
Dear
No Split Decision,
I
completely agree with you and so does etiquette. He, or she in this case, who orders is the
person who pays. It is the same as when someone invites. He who
invites is the person who pays. And as for splitting the bill…you should
only have to pay for what you ordered unless agreed on another method in the
beginning.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
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