Reader’s Take on Hosts Expecting Guests to Pay for Their Party

Please remember that adult birthday parties are not considered gift-giving events. Plus, if you are hosting any type of party, please do not expect your guests to pay for it. As a host, you provide everything.

Dear Etiquette Guru,

I read one of your questions from a young girl that asked for advice on how to ask "guests" to pay for their meal at a party she is "hosting"....huh?! You are not a host if you are asking anyone to pay for anything. That is just obscene! I've never heard of such a thing.

When you invite friends/family to a restaurant for a celebration it is common knowledge that you are hosting it, which means you are paying. I'm wondering how these GIRLS are being raised?!

On a literal brighter note, I appreciate all the information you provide especially to those that are clueless. I love your site.

Respectfully,

Thankful to be in California!

The Polite One’s Reply:

Thank you for your support. And it is good to note that we have many in other states who are just as well-mannered.

Sincerely,

The Polite One, aka: Etiquette Guru

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