How to state: “No Children” and “Monetary Gifts” on the invitation?

Dear Polite One,

I don't want children attending my husband's 60th birthday; may I state this on the invitation? I also want to request monetary gifts. How do I include this information?

Wants cash; no kids

Dear Wants Cash; No Kids,

Please don't list "no children" on the invitation, as it would appear too harsh. The time of the party and venue should be enough for parents to know better. You could also get the word out through the grapevine. Perhaps you could include an RSVP with your phone number necessitating guests to call you. Then, share your wishes.

An adult birthday party is not a gift-giving event. Even if it were, requesting cash is never polite. If guests ask what he wants, you could mention the cash option. Expect guests to cringe though. It is incredibly impolite.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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