How to inform guests I only want gift cards?

Dear Polite One,

I just bought my very first home and I cannot wait to make it into my little haven. I will soon host a housewarming party. How do I politely tell guests not to give me gifts? I doubt that they can match my decor and I don't want to store the gift to display it when they come over. I'd rather just have gift cards.

How can I word this on an invitation?

Sincerely,

Gift cards only

Dear Gift Cards Only,

First things first, it's not nice or polite to refuse a gift. However, you certainly can get the word out that you'd prefer no gifts or write it on the invitation. You could tell guests this as well. It is impolite to state, verbally or written, that you want gift cards. It's like saying that you want cash because you've just bought a house.

Gifts for housewarming parties are supposed to be small, inexpensive gifts, like kitchen towels, candles, and coffee table books. So, there shouldn't be a problem with guests trying to match your decor.

And please do not register. This is a fad began by store chains and is viewed very negatively.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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