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When to Send Thank You Notes

 Thank you note grieving mother needs to send.

Is it too late to write thank you notes to those who gave flowers and cards?

When a thank-you note is expected, typically we write and mail them promptly.  But how about thanking those for flowers and other generous deeds after the death of a loved one?  Follow along and learn how we deal with this delicate issue. 

Dear Polite One,

I sent most of the thank you notes to those who sent cards, flowers, and attended my 25-year-old son's funeral last year.   But I couldn't bring myself to write more personal notes to those I had intended to. Is there another option for the thank you card or do I need to write these?  Is it too late? 

Thank you,  

Still grieving

Dear Still grieving, 

I am sincerely sorry.   

Thank you, cards or notes are obligatory to those, who sent flowers or performed special favors. So, if you have already sent these cards out, you're fine.  If you still want to send some sort of acknowledgment to some, these should be personalized.  You could even call if you wish.  I doubt that anyone would fault you for taking your time to write.   

Sincerely, 

The Polite One


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