Correspondence: Dr and Hubby, Grieving Brother-In-Law

The wife is a doctor, so how to address the envelope?

Dear Polite One,

I am a doctor and need to send out invitations. Is the form correct for my return address: Sam and Dr. Jane Brown.

Doc Brown

Dear Doc Brown,

Although this form is not too off, this is the best form: Dr. Jan and Mr. Sam Brown. You are mentioned first because of your status.

The Polite One

How to acknowledge an anniversary after my sister’s death?

Dear Polite One,

My sister passed away last year. This is my brother-in-law's first year without her for what would have been their 40th anniversary. I want to let him know that he is still family even though she is gone and acknowledge the anniversary somehow. Would a card be appropriate?

Visitor

Dear Visitor,

Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss.

A letter might be the best way of conveying your feelings, as a card is a bit too generic. Write about your memories of times that all of you spent together while stating that all of you are forever family. This might help him through this difficult milestone date.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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