What should I do when I visit my dying friend?

What to do about a dying friend. Basic, everyday manners.

In the scope of human experiences, death, and grief is the most painful and confusing. The finality of it and for those left behind, it can be overwhelming. What to do? What is the most proper and kind behavior when visiting the dying and their families? What follows is just one of those dilemmas.

Dear Polite One,

I've just looked up an old friend and found he is dying! I'm at a loss at what I should do. Hospice is with him daily now. What should I do when I visit my dying friend?

Thank you so much.

Wishes to do the right thing

Dear Wishing to do the right thing,

My condolences. It must be very difficult to reunite with your friend at such a painful time. I don't know, and perhaps you don't either, what his family situation is. I'm not sure about how much hospice is doing either. But typically, visitors bring ready-cooked meals to the family. We're not sure if there is family living with your friend. So, that might not be an option.

Sometimes, visitors will offer to stay with the dying person so the family can rest. Again, this might not be an issue here, especially with hospice in place.

So, perhaps in this case, it is best to just take your love and caring for your friend. This may be what is needed most. He/she may just want to see your happy smile.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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