What is the appropriate gift for Godchild?

Whether or not you choose a religious affiliation, to be a Godparent is a great honor. Upon your acceptance, you are now a crucial member of that child’s life. Gifts are often part of your responsibility, but your steady guidance is much more important.

Dear Polite One,

I'm the Godmother of my new little niece. I have no idea what the appropriate gift is at the Christening and as each year progresses. Is there a book about this or a list or something?

Visitor

Dear Visitor,

Congratulations on your new role in a little person's life. As a Godmother, you will have a great impact on your niece's values.

There are many different views on exactly what your involvement should be at the Christening. You may be expected to arrive in nice clothing and simply stand where and when you are asked. Or you may be expected to purchase the child's dress and various other duties. It all depends on the church, the depth of religious commitment, and the parents of your Godchild.

Usually, for the Christening, the Godparent buys something silver for the child. For example, a silver spoon. As the child grows the gifts could be religious in nature, or lasting gifts such as contributing to a college fund. It really depends on you, your family, and the church you belong to.

You may wish to purchase an etiquette book; anything written by the Post family should have all the information you need. Make sure and peruse it first. But, the best thing you can do is to talk to your clergy and your family.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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