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As Godmother, how do I deal with ungrateful parents?

Dear Polite One, 

As Godmother of my niece, I felt obligated and honored to purchase her Christening gown or her first cross but was told that those were already purchased.  So, I decided to give her a savings bond valued at $50.00 and a keep-safe porcelain cross to record the date.   

I never received a thank you note but did hear that my sister-in-law feels I am selfish for not giving more. She expected thousands of dollars.  As a single parent, I can’t afford more.  Was I wrong?  I feel so hurt. How do I deal with ungrateful people?  

Heartbroken Godmother

Dear Heartbroken Godmother, 

Unbelievable and unkind behavior! That was very hurtful and she is incorrect.  You were not expected to give more.  A godparent gives life lessons—like a second parent.  Yes, gifts are somewhat expected.  However, even as a Godparent all gift-giving is optional. The gifts you gave are generous.   

Just be there for your Goddaughter when she needs you and try not to pay any attention to her mother.  

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

Reciprocal Gifts for the God Parents?

Dear Polite One, 

We are having a Christening for our new baby.  We are wondering if it is proper to give the godparents thank you presents and if so, what would be appropriate or proper? 

Thank you,

Visitor

Dear Visitor,

This isn’t typically expected.  If you wanted to give them something, it could be a picture of your child.

Short and Sweet Tutorial on Giving and Receiving.

Give Gifts from the Heart

Give something you feel the recipient would like. It’s only good manners. Give to only those you wish to give to.

As a Receiver of Gifts

Receive each gift with a positive response even if it isn’t what you would have chosen for yourself. A gift is special.

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