Ah,
new relationships...so sweet. Still, at
times it seems we’re walking on ice as if we have to watch every step or slip
right through into cold water. Do I do
this, that, or go in a different direction.
Too many questions and variables.
Perhaps these two situations may clear up some doubts.
Should I give a gift to a new boyfriend?
Hello Polite One,
I
am in a new relationship, just a few months of romantic bliss. With the
holidays approaching, I was wondering if I should give him a gift. On one
hand, I'd like to give him a gift but on the other, I don’t want to make him
feel obligated to return the favor.
What
does dating and relationship etiquette dictate?
Thank
You,
Visitor
Dear
Visitor,
Gifts
are always optional even when a relationship grows into something more.
However, it isn’t wrong to give him a gift. A great, non-committal type, a gift would be a movie that you two enjoyed together. It is a gift you might
even give to a friend. So, it is less likely that he would feel guilty if
he didn't buy you anything, and yet it is quite thoughtful.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
What to do about being excluded from a family wedding?
Dear
Polite One,
My
boyfriend of 2-years has been invited to a family wedding. I’ve spent
time with all his family members and we appeared to be close. In fact,
they all assume we will be family when we two finish college. I haven’t
received my invitation yet, even though they have invited more than 150 guests.
I feel hurt to be excluded from such an event.
My
boyfriend is surprised that I am not invited but thinks that maybe they didn’t
have enough space for me. What should I do? Should I say
something?
Hurt
Dear
Hurt,
Let’s
take a breather here. You may not have been intentionally omitted
from the wedding. Stranger things have happened than a missing wedding
invitation. I suggest asking your boyfriend to ask his family if you are
invited. If you are not, then they probably have a good reason.
The reason wouldn’t be to hurt you. As a family, which you are now
with or without marriage, we try to understand space issues in
weddings/receptions. These things happen. Sometimes we have to invite
people we would rather not and leave out those we would rather have.
The
Polite One
Update: The invitation her boyfriend received was supposed to include her, so she was invited!
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