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Three Tips About Wedding Correspondence Issues

 Wedding correspondences, registries, announcements

There is more to wedding invitations than listing who is marrying.  We must determine the formality of the wedding, where what time, and who is the host.  This will determine the formality of the invitations.  

Determining what information should be listed and creating the perfect invitation is not an easy task resulting in etiquette rules to follow, such as not including gift registry information.  How about other wedding correspondences?  Let’s read what others are asking. 

Gift Information in the Announcement?

Dear Polite One, 

We plan to be married in Brussels where we live right now.  All my family lives in the US and can't make it to the wedding.  So, ours will be an exceedingly small civil ceremony.  How and when do we send announcements to my family/friends in the US and his family here?  It is very costly to cash foreign checks and to ship gifts here, so we will have a registry here.  Do we include this information in the announcement? 

Small Wedding in Brussels

Dear Small Wedding in Brussels, 

Send your announcements after the wedding, but these are meant just to announce. We never mention gifts or registries in these as it would be very impolite.  It would appear as if you are begging for gifts from people not good enough to invite to a wedding.  This information is not sent with reception invitations either.  You could definitely register though. If someone wishes to give you a gift, they will ask where you are registered. 

Registry Cards Inside Invitations?

Dear Polite One

When sending invitations for a wedding, do I slip the gift registry card inside?

Confused

Dear Confused

Gifts are never mentioned in a wedding invitation, even if store personnel states that it is appropriate. 

How to Inform Guests of Where to Send Gifts?

Dear Polite One

We are getting married out of state and cannot transport wedding gifts. How do we inform guests where to send the gifts? Do we include a note in the invitations, if so how would we state that?  

Gift Issues

Dear Gift Issues,

It is unfortunate more people do not know that they are supposed to ship the gifts to the home of the couple or bride before the wedding because no mention of gifts is to be included in the invitation.  So, if you have a wedding website you could mention this here.  Or, you will have to rely on 'word of mouth'. 

If you receive gifts, you will have to ship them home.

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