How to List Names in the Class Reunion Directory

How to list classmates’ in the directory when their names have changed?

Dear Polite One,

In preparing our 20th Class Reunion Directory, I have stumbled across some invitation-addressing issues. What suggestions would you have for noting classmates who have boyfriends/girlfriends that they reside with & mutual and/or children from a previous relationship? I didn't realize how tricky this can be.

Reuniting

Dear Reuniting,

If you choose to include information about significant others and children, you could state it as such: Jane Brown is now Jane Green. She and her significant other, John Gutierrez (or leave the name blank), are presently living in New Jersey with her child Alice Black.

Mentioning marital status or a child's father is not necessary unless pertinent. If two of the members were married for 20 years and are very proud of that, this would be something to share. If it is newsworthy because two are members of the same graduating year, it is worth mentioning.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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Correspondence: Dr and Hubby, Grieving Brother-In-Law

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