Prefers Cash
Graduation is a major life event we tend to celebrate, as we should. However, since this is considered by most to be a gift-giving event, we should follow some etiquette guidance or chance appearing...well, not so well mannered.
Dear
Polite One
My
daughter is graduating from High School this year. She does not plan to go to college yet and has secured an assistant management position with her current employer. My question is: she would prefer to have cash in lieu of gifts.
Is it appropriate to state that on the reception invitations and if so how would I word it? I would greatly appreciate a prompt reply as I am preparing the invitations to print and need to know.
Thanks
so much,
Jean
Dear
Jean,
No,
it is never appropriate to ask for gifts, especially cash. Can you
imagine receiving an invitation for graduation and reading that you are
expected to bring your wallet? A graduation party is not necessarily
considered a gift-giving event. This is a party
to celebrate the accomplishment of graduating and is hosted by the family or
the person who has graduated. To put a focus on gifts would be implying
that the only reason you are inviting your guests is to receive gifts for your
daughter. The focus should be on your pride in your daughter's
success.
This
is a great teachable moment for your daughter. This is the perfect time
for her to find out that gifts are not what is important. It is the
sharing of time with those we care about.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Two Grads; One Party
Dear
Polite One
My husband and I were granted Guardianship over a young girl about a year and a half ago. She's only been with us for a year and a half and most of our family and friends have not met her yet. But she's a wonderful part of our immediate family. This May she graduates high school, along with our oldest son. I have some questions.
- Do I send their graduation announcements together? I need to save everywhere I can, and postage can add up.
- Do I send her announcements to everyone I would send his to?
- We're having a family party the weekend after graduation. Would it be proper to send the invitation to that party along with the graduation announcement?
Thank
you so much.
Simply
Southern
Dear
Simply Southern,
Usually
I suggest separate parties for graduates because each has worked hard to make
it to this point. But, in this case, I think it is appropriate to combine
the parties and add her name to every invitation. So, yes in every case.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
What is the Expected Cash Gift for the Graduate?
Dear
Polite One
Can
you help me out? I have not been to a
graduation party for several years; my niece is graduating from a catholic high
school and has no idea how much to give her in a card. Her party is at a
genuinely nice hall, overlooking the city of Pittsburgh, Three Rivers.
Help.
Loren
Dear
Loren,
There
is no perfect amount. Some will consider an amount generous, while some
consider it lacking. So, this should be based on your relationship with
her and your budget. Plus, it isn’t all about money. I realize that
many do not know or believe this. But there are many nice gifts and
gestures that are worth much more, such as spending a day together.
In
addition, gifts are optional for this type of party. I know a lot of
people consider it mandatory, but it is not.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
What is Graduation Etiquette?
Dear
Polite One
I
have a question regarding graduation etiquette.
When a child graduates from 8th grade are you supposed to give them a
gift? Monetary or personnel? Only if there’s a party or anytime?
Thank
you for your help.
Valentine
Dear
Valentine,
Not
typically and all graduation gifts are optional.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Graduation Party
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