Mother-in-law added names to the guest list!

Dear Polite One,

My aunt is hosting a baby shower for me soon. Because she has limited space, I was asked to provide just a few names. Imagine my aunt's surprise, and mine, when my mother-in-law invited several people on her own. Now I feel embarrassed and more than a little angry. We left some close family out due to space. What should I do?

Sincerely,

Hurt daughter-in-law.

Dear Hurt daughter-in-law,

I am so sorry your mother-in-law added this stress at this time. It was inexcusable. Does your husband realize what his mother did? If not, it may be best to mention it to him along with how you feel about it. You two should stand together on this and nip this type of behavior in the bud. If he can't or won't for whatever reason, talk to her about it privately and calmly. Your mother-in-law really should know that she can't control your life. Most likely, she won't respect your rights unless you have honest communication about your feelings. Hold your ground.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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