How to plan a graduation party for a kindergartner and announce a money tree?

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Dear Polite One,

We are hosting a party to honor our daughter's kindergarten graduation. She has many family and friends who have participated in her life and would enjoy such a milestone celebration. Since she doesn't need toys, we want cash gifts for her future.

How do we inform guests of our wishes? We will also have a money tree at the party.

Proud Mom

Dear Proud Mom,

This is very confusing as it is far from a gift-giving event. It's just not done and may be equally confusing to your guests. Moreover, requesting cash, in any form, especially for a non-gift-giving event may appear as greedy. It may appear as if you want others to provide for your daughter's future when it is your responsibility. Please also note that a money tree is never done anymore. All of this is just not good manners.

Sincerely

The Polite One

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