How-to plan a welcome home/graduation combo party?

Dear Polite One,

My oldest son returns from deployment at the same time my youngest daughter graduates from high school. Since both events are reasons to celebrate, should I plan for one party to celebrate both events? I want to have many of the same people attend, but don't want to overwhelm them with two different dates. The welcome home part of the party could come first so the military families could leave afterward.

I'm just a little concerned about the gift issue. I don't want the military families to feel like they should bring one for my daughter. Should I write this on the invitation?

Confused Mom

Dear Confused Mom,

It might be better to split the parties into separate events, as it isn't as special for your two children. Although, you know more about what is right for your family. If you do host this as one party, de-emphasizing gift-giving is best.

The graduation party is not necessarily a gift-giving event, even though many close family and friends will want to give one. In fact, the family may be a bit confused and want to give a gift for both if the parties are combined. So, including "your presence is the best present" might be best, at least for military families invited. Place received gifts aside and not in view of the guests, so those not giving are not embarrassed.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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