What to do about an intrusive neighbor boy?
Dear Polite One,
I have always taught my 5-year-old son to never invite himself to anyone’s home. However, our neighbor boy is exactly the opposite. He always invites himself to our home at all hours no matter who else is visiting. The mother is no better, as she calls asking to send him over. How do I convey that this is rude behavior? I don’t want to tell her that she has no parenting skills. What is proper neighbor etiquette?
Frustrated
Mom
Dear
Frustrated Mom,
Bravo
on your parenting skills and preparing your son for a well-mannered future.
I agree that it is 'rude' to invite oneself to someone else's home.
Since it is also impolite to correct other’s manners, you may have to
teach your neighbor through your actions. You could politely tell the boy
that it is best for him to wait for an invite, as your schedule changes from
time to time, and your son wouldn’t know this. That's just one idea and is a
good start.
When
the mother calls, you could simply deflect the question by mentioning that you
are busy and can’t even think about guests at this time. The more you put
her off, hopefully, she will tire of calling. However, you may have to be
honest–there’s nothing wrong with honesty.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
What to do about broken vase?
Dear
Polite One,
I
homeschool my young children. One is five and one is preschool age (4).
We are also members of a homeschool group of four other mothers with one
to two children each. During our last visit, my younger child broke a
glass vase that was on a bookshelf. At four years old, none of us could
get to him quickly enough. I helped to clean up and chastised my son for
touching things that aren’t his. He was pretty frightened, though, due to
the noise of the crash.
After
apologizing, I offered to replace the item. She was very generous about
it and said that it was her fault for placing a breakable where a young child
could reach it. What is the etiquette involved; what should I do?
I’d like to replace it but can’t find the vase online or in the stores.
Ideas?
Embarrassed,
but want to do the right thing.
Dear
Embarrassed, but want to do the right thing,
Great
parenting skills! I’m thrilled to hear from a parent who actually wants to take
responsibility for the actions of her child. Bravo! This will help
both of your children to do the same.
Most
likely, you wouldn’t be able to replace the exact item. So perhaps you
could give her something you think she would like based on your experience with
her. It isn’t necessary for the gift to be equal to the broken
item.
Sincerely,
The Polite One
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