How to write a formal reply?

Dear Polite One,

There was no reply card with an invitation to a wedding we received. I believe we are expected to reply with a handwritten note. How is this done? Is there special stationery for this? What should be said?

No Note

Dear No Note,

Traditionally, this was expected for a formal wedding. Unfortunately, this is not the case much anymore since this tradition is disappearing. It is refreshing to hear of someone following proper wedding etiquette. A formal reply is written on heavy, high-quality plain white or cream-colored notepaper using blue, blue-black, or black ink.

Example

Mr. and Mrs. Your Name

accept with pleasure Or, regrets that we are unable to accept

the kind invitation of

Mr. and Mrs. Their Name

for Saturday, the tenth of July

at half after six o'clock.

It is optional to include the location of the wedding in the acceptance letter. The regret does not have to include the time. Send an additional note of congratulates, sighting other commitments if sending your regrets.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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