Monday, July 13, 2015

Everyday Manners: Dying Friend


What should I do when I visit my dying friend?

 
 

Dear Polite One, 

I've just looked up an old friend and found he is dying!  I'm at a loss at what I should do. Hospice is with him daily now.  What should I do when I visit my dying friend?
Thank you so much.
Wishes to do the right thing
 
Reply by The Polite One

Dear Wishing to do the right thing,
My condolences; it must be very difficult to reunited with your friend at such a painful time. I don't know, and perhaps you don't either, what his family situation is.  I'm not sure about how much hospice is doing either.  But, typically visitors bring ready cooked meals to the family.  We're not sure if there is family living with your friend.  So, that might not be an option.  

Sometimes, visitors will offer to stay with the dying person so family can rest.  Again, this might not be an issue here, especially with hospice in place. 

So, perhaps in this case, it is best to just take your love and caring for your friend.  This may be what is needed most.  He/she may just want to see your happy smile. 

Sincerely, 

The Polite One